Memorial Candle Holder with Online Memorial | Sympathy Gift

A handmade memorial candle holder that opens a shared online memorial for the person you miss.

Light the candle. Rest your phone on the feather. Their photos, letters, videos, voice and favorite songs open, added by everyone who loved them.

What family and friends can add

• Photos, gathered in one shared gallery
• Letters to them, written from a phone or computer. They look like real letter paper and live in their own Letters tab and among the memories
• Videos straight from your phone
• Their voice: record a voice message on the page or upload an audio file
• Their favorite songs, ready to play when someone visits
• A photo, their name, dates and a few words about their life

No app and no account needed to add a memory, just a name. Anyone with the link can open the memorial from any phone or computer, wherever they are, even without the piece, unless you keep it private. Easy to browse on a phone, one section at a time. Each memorial is in English or Spanish, chosen when you create it.

Write them a letter

Not sure how to begin? Gentle prompts help you start: "Thank you for…", "I remember…", "I miss you when…", "I want you to know…", "I want to tell you that…". Share it on the memorial. Or seal it, and no one will ever read it.

How it works

1. Rest your phone on the feather. A small chip inside the piece opens the memorial, no app needed. New to this? Here is how tap-to-open memorials work.
2. The first person sets it up in a few minutes: a name, a photo, a few words.
3. Share one link with family and friends. They open it from any phone or computer, no piece needed, and add their memories. You approve what others share before it appears.

One memorial for the whole family

Choose a Set of 2 or a Set of 3 and every piece opens the same memorial, so each home can light a candle and add their memories. Single pieces bought separately each open their own memorial. To share one memorial, choose a set. Ordering more than one single piece? Send us a message if you'd like them to share one memorial.

Private and yours

You decide who sees it: private, anyone with the link, or public. Letters can be kept for family only. The keeper can download everything, free, anytime, in one file: photos, audio, videos, letters and stories. The memorial comes included with the piece. No subscription. You never pay to keep it or to download it. If Pachamama ever stops offering the memorial, you will get at least 90 days' notice by email and on the site, with your download available the whole time.

A gentle gift

If you are sending this to someone who is grieving, it arrives ready to give. They decide when, or if, to open the memorial. Want to include a few words? Write them in the gift message box above (optional, up to 500 characters). We print your message on a 4 x 6 card, the first thing they see when they open the box. No prices are included in the package.

The feather

The feather is the Pachamama mark for where a memory lives. Every piece that opens a memorial carries it.

Details

• Handmade in Florida from cement. Each piece is unique.
• Measures about 5 x 2.5 x 1.2 inches.
• Includes one tea light. Fits standard and LED tea lights.
• For indoor use. Never leave a lit candle unattended.
• Tap to open works on iPhone XS or newer and most Android phones with NFC turned on. Why a chip and not a printed code? See NFC vs QR code memorials.
• Simple instructions are included in the box.

Good to know

• Each memorial holds up to 300 photos and 15 minutes of audio.
• Video: up to 3 minutes per video and 20 minutes in total.
• Letters: no limit on how many.
• Sealed letters never leave the writer's device. Only a closed envelope appears on the memorial.

Keeping a portion of ashes too?

This piece holds a tea light, not ashes. If someone in the family wants to keep a portion at home, our Songbird keepsake urn holds about 1 cup. And if you are still deciding, here are more memorial gifts the whole family can share.

Frequently asked questions

Does it hold ashes?
No. It holds a tea light, standard or LED. If someone in the family wants to keep a portion of ashes, our Songbird keepsake urn holds about 1 cup.

Do I need an app or an account?
No app. The memorial opens in the phone's browser. Family and friends add a memory with just their name. Only the keeper signs in, with a code sent by email.

What if someone's phone can't tap it?
Tap to open works on iPhone XS or newer and most Android phones with NFC turned on. Anyone else opens the same memorial from the shared link, on any phone or computer.

Can the whole family share one memorial?
Yes. Choose a Set of 2 or a Set of 3 and every piece opens the same memorial. Single pieces bought separately each open their own.

Is there a subscription?
No. The memorial is included with the piece. If Pachamama ever stops offering it, you get at least 90 days' notice by email and on the site, and the keeper can download everything in one file, free.

Who can see the memorial?
You choose: private, anyone with the link, or public. It stays off search engines unless you make it public.

Can I send it straight to someone who is grieving?
Yes. It arrives ready to give, with no prices in the package. Add a few words in the gift message box above and we print them on a card inside.

Can the memorial be in Spanish?
Yes. Each memorial is in English or Spanish, chosen when it is created.

Some photos use edited backgrounds. The piece itself is shown as it is, and one photo is unedited. The memorial screens show a sample memorial.

Made to order, ships in 2 to 3 business days. Free shipping in the US and 30-day returns.